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  • Claire H.
    What can I say man, she cracks me up! I'll also add that it's awesome having her as a cousin (in-law). Indeed.
  • Anna L.
    Anna just rocques.
  • Erika
    Art + Mothering + Awesomeness=Erika
  • Katie CL
    Awesome cousin-in-law that we get to see way too little.
  • Suzanne
    The new Suzanne blog. Like the old one, just more Typepaddy.
  • FUNDamentals Ezine
    Quarterly ezine about the intersection of the spiritual and material. Also I get to work on it.
  • Kim
    If she's as awesome a boss as she is a mom, and you know she is, that kid's gonna be amazing.
  • Myk
    Talented? Aww yeah. Easy to scare? In surplus. Loving and compassionate? You betcha.
  • NathanB
    One smart fella, in the midst of daddyland.
  • Robbie F.
    Robbie is...well, Robbie is Robbie. Intensely.
  • Juliet M.
    We're learning a lot from this very cool mom and friend we've gotten to know recently.
  • Heather B
    Co-founder of a family, magazine, and parent-support network that I've had the privilege to get to know recently.
  • Heather L
    Completely dedicated to making others happy.
  • Katie B.
    Dear sister-in-law who's a new a mommy, which is totally awesome. She's gonna mom the heck out of that child.
  • Anya
    Dear sister-in-law - changing, transforming, learning, creating, erm...arting.
  • dooce
    Mothering and writing.
  • danio
    As much love and joy as 10 men. Semiotician, philosopher, writer, artist, actor, inventor of the word weblo.
  • Liza
    Dear sister-in-law helping the world communicate better, one child at a time.
  • Kari
    Filmmakers view of the world. Proud to call her my friend.
  • Jessica
    Having braved the reservations of South Dakota, she now braves Chicago, all with the voice of an angel.
  • Bahiyyih
    Awesome mother, awesome friend. (Inventor of the word webble)
  • Lacey
    A wonderful person; host to a family of blogs; the one who started it all for me.
  • Dad
    A great dad.

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Erika! So good to hear from you again! I was just thinking about you today, actually :)

I totally feel you. My issue was that I felt guilty asking for a break when Suzanne was at home all day all week. It just didn't feel right at first. But then I/we realized how much better we are at parenting when we both get to recharge our batteries. Looking back it seems so obvious, but when you're in the middle of it all trying to figure it out few things are obvious it seems. And I still remember the slight feelings of panic when I was left alone with Amia. Definitely took some practice! I'm so glad you found a balance!

Erika Hastings

I think it's been ages since I've read your blog - my internet on the blitz, etc., etc. It's fun to catch up here though and I love reading about all of your parenting issues from the father perspective.

Chris and I started trading days off 7 months ago. I'm sure I wouldn't have had the courage to do it if I hadn't seen my sister, who lives downstairs, get a full day to herself each week after her baby was baby was born. I found myself full of jealousy, but not courageous enough to ask for it myself. I was almost as if, unconsciously I didn't deserve it, or I needed to "take care" of my husband as well, who had no problem go off on the weekends to go do sports and hiking.

So when we first started doing it, it was a really hard struggle and steep learning curve for him. But when I stopped rescuing him, and started taking care of myself and taking for myself, everything, literally, everything in our marriage and our relationships with our children improved.

Normally we take the mornings off, I'm around to help put my youngest down for a nap, then I have the rest of the afternoon off until his nap is done and then we have the rest of the afternoon and evening for family time.


Kristin-I imagine it will be years yet to come for me too. I'm glad this spoke to your experience. Sometimes I feel like that's all I want, is someone to really know what I'm experiencing.

Ali-It's totally an invisible source. I'm so glad we have this medium of blogging, which has been so important to my life as a parent, to share our experiences. Thanks for the support!

Myk-Let me know how it goes! I can't wait to hear about how you experience being a dad!

Mojan-I was thinking of Nathan's reply on Facebook: sometimes I'm not sure if I'm ready to be a parent either. You're seriously not alone in that. I can't think of anything more weighty than being responsible for someone's physical, social, intellectual, and spiritual growth. But I think you may have found the key already-friends and family. I think Suzanne has blogged about this on her blog, but developing a circle of friends, particularly moms since they're often home during the day as well, made all the difference in the world. You really need that support, that energy, to stay on top of the wave. We're always here (and we just got Skype!) if you need to talk.


I have serious doubts about my ability to be a parent 24/7/365. Fortunately, I have a lot of friends and family who've done/do it, and I'm sure I'll be going to them for a lot of advice (and sanity checks).


I was one of three kids... I do enjoy my time alone quite a bit.. Its when I do my thinking... If I don't get that time, I don't think.. lol..

I like to just be alone on the computer sometimes reading and writing. I don't get to do that much anymore even now.. I imagine in the future I will have no time at all..


as someone who does not yet have children, but who is witnessing, with much admiration, you & Suzanne and many friends who go through such a major transformation as parents, i am awed by the strength and endurance seeming to come from an invisible source. i also really appreciate the disourse of honesty that's emerging about the dualities of parenting - one of total love and total sacrifice. and can i just say, you guys are doing some phenomenal parenting!! much love!


right on, right on, right on.

it took me years to emrace the concept of "letting it be both."

thanks for putting words to this.

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