Suzanne and I had plans to go on a date tonight, which kind of fizzled. And Suzanne, desperately needing a break, went to Borders while Amia and I hung out for a bit. We went for a walk, which we always do at this time so she can go to sleep. I was going through a list of the people that love her, when all of a sudden I realized that I'd never thanked her for all that she's done for Suzanne and I. So then I did. And now I'm wondering why I haven't done it before.
I'm thinking that our culture, generally, and often, treats kids as an imposition at worst, and as people to be taken care of at best. I'm speaking really broadly here, but I feel that rarely is there an appreciation of what they can bring to the lives of their families and to the communities of which they are a part. And I'm not just talking about laughter, cuteness, and sweetness, although those are great and wonderful. I'm also talking about the things that they may never realize until much later that they do. I was talking with someone recently and he said, Babies are great for making you focus. Boy is that true. When we knew Amia was coming a whole bunch of things had to be resolved, between Suzannne and I, our careers, where we wanted to live, and all the rest. Once your life isn't all about you, in a sense, you really have to figure out what's important, what's healthy, what's true, and really hold onto them. Also, Amia's coming has brought about opportunities for the daily expression love. I remember being lonely before marrying Suzanne, and thinking, I just want someone to love. Getting married was great for giving space to that expression. Having a baby took it to a whole 'nother level. A level that pushes your capacity to love even when you're tired, when you're hungry, when you want to take a break, when you need to be by yourself and cry a little bit.
So I thanked Amia for being in our lives, for choosing us, for making us better people, both individually and as a couple. And at that point a Lakota word echoed in my mind. The Lakota word for child is Wakanyija, meaning literally, 'sacred being'. Now how can you not be thankful for having a sacred being in your family!